Challenge: Rocktober 23rd: X it out

[maxlharris]

Nobody can give you freedom. Nobody can give you equality or justice or anything. If you're a man, you take it.

Or if you're a woman, too, I guess.

And you make it, not just take it.

The key words:
Nobody
Give
Anything.
(Wo)Man
Take
Make.

Whatever it is you want, you have to go out and get it. Or stay in and make it. If it's a steak dinner, a new car, a life out of the office, a beach body, freedom from disease, whatever, it's there for you to go get.

For my things I want today, I will list the following:

a new job.
a stream of revenue apart from my job (potentially replacing my job)
an end to this assignment that is efficient and effective (that doesn't worry my conscience)
a nice night out with my wife (we're going to a chocolate seminar)
a better understanding of travel policy
more freedom of location
To go get these, I have these actions:

work with my man in India on the new job
Look at licensing opportunities as tech transfer is beyond me right now.
Big meeting with supervisor at 3PM today should define assignment better and give me tools to cap it quickly.
Reservations are made. Nice.
an hour of web search should help with this, otherwise, mentor might have some insight.
Meet-down with supervisor could address this, as well.The key question is what do you want. The follow up that is no less key is, what do I have to do to get it.

So, what's it gonna be?

[Shadow]

Today I want to be happy - so I'm going to make it happen :). Off to a good start with exercise done, water going down, meals planned, and mind challenged :thumbsup:.

[Ottawa]

Today I would like to clear up loads of little loose ends both at work and home.

I need to get ...
Job lists up to date and marked off.
Work lunch organized for Friday.
Weigh-in for work challenge.
Get an ergonomic chair for work.
Do a walk through the zones that I cover.
A Chipotle Sauce on the way home or lunchhour.

[Claudette]

Today, I want to get through the day with energy to spare, so I am trying to make it happen. I am going to let a few referals go to get off on time, as yesterday, I alone saw, 18 cosults. Very frustratrating lately as the "brass" aren't listening to us, who are in the trenches. Maybe when they see all the consults we aren't able to see, someone will take notice and get us the help we need.

Meals, snacks packed. Will go to the gym later today.

A yes day, today.

[gitfiddle]

What do I want? Good health.

What am I gonna do to get it? Work the PP program as hard as I can.

I have a new appreciation for my job today. I audited a procedural meeting that was facilitated by a co-worker from the main office. After the meeting, she shared, no, vented to me for an hour about the atmosphere and the politics she deals with on a daily basis. :eek: It made me want to go hug my boss. I've got it good. :nod:

Randy, did you get an opportunity to talk to your co-worker yesterday?

[hawk]

1) Today I want to finish princess costumes for grandaughters and get them in the mail.
1) action: sew most of the day
2)facilitate recovery meeting tonight.I am a volunteer.I'm deciding if I really am effective or I want to continue.
2)I have no plan of action...I am just beginning to feel like I want to go in a different direction. I need to spend more time thinking about this.There needs to be a more posative balance in my life and I am getting sucked dry. I'm Frustrated with helpless victim attitudes. I can work with someone who will take responsibility and take steps to go forward. The majority wait for someone to do it for them.They get angry if you expect anything out of them. It's like saving a drowning person who climbs on top of you and begins to drown you . Pretty soon you have to swim away just to save yourself. I struggle with setting boundaries. Maybe I'm just not good at this. A woman who has a low paying job and is on probation for a felony decided to go to the gambling boat and try her luck at doubling her pay check. She lost it all and then calls screaming and crying because she has no money or food and I am mean because I won't help . Just enough $ to buy cigarettes. The boat was totally paid off 4 months after it was built. Alot of people lose alot of money. Sorry chicky I don't subsidize your gambling habit. Sorry about TMI, just now I want to eat comfort food.I want to walk away, not answer my phone... I have no compassion. It's stressful. I have been working with this person for a long time. She needs professional help. I need a different cell phone #.

I don't want to go tonight. I'd rather finish costumes and relax.

Why do I feel like eating all the sudden? It's a good thing I have nothing here that is not PP.

[Ottawa]

Randy, did you get an opportunity to talk to your co-worker yesterday?

Not how it should have gone. In our "Completed Jobs" this month there are 935 entries. His name is on two. I know that he has done about a dozen more but not bothered entering them. Lately we have enough work to keep us going pretty solid but he just needs to get in gear. We see our boss about 6 times a year now and it will take a while for this to be noticed.

[hawk]

Randy you need a couple books on boundaries... just like I do. Tough love.. It's easier to take the easy road and then just smolder underneath.You are going to explode someday.

There is a book someone recommended to me on setting boudaries. I think we need it.

[oceanblueLA]

Excellent thread today. Thanks all for sharing.

Today I want to:

--have a great writing day beyond the pages I set out to do
--get in my exercise (mindful of the smell of smoke -- I'm in L.A.)
--keep the carbs lower than usual just for today
--get to all my email and return messages I haven't made time for
--call my mom and let her talk for as long as she likes. she lives alone.
--drink all my water and then some.
--redo my to do list and update priorities

I'll check back in later to let you know how it goes! Have a great day!

Blue

[Rhyme'n Reason]

It seems to me that accountability is the issue for many folks like the lady you mentioned, Hawk, and your co-worker, Randy. It's really tough to always be the "grownup" at times like this. I have found that when I care more than the people I'm trying to help, I'm in trouble. I end up carrying all of their burdens in addition to my own. That's enough to send anyone to the refrigerator.

My day was totally planned out as far as time is concerned--I taught all six classes today, and I am totally booked for tutoring tonight at the college: five students in three hours.

Food and water are on-plan today (as if I had time to do anything else).

Try not to breathe in too much of the smoke, Blue.




Ruth

[Feelix]

Good Evening,

I am having a very weak day. I went to my swim class this morning but spent too much time in the hot tub. I was faint and weak. I left without doing my weights - went to Costco, came home and crashed. i took an hour nap and still am not the same. Diagnosis anyone?

I am lethargetic and just feeling slow, icky and un-motivated. I made a salad for lunch with pepperoni because it required no work. Here's to tomorrow being a better day!

Sarah

[Ottawa]

A YES day.

Total: 1887 IF 18/6
Fat: 144
Carbs: 53 - 30 =23 ECC
Fiber: 30
Protein: 120

Job lists up to date and marked off. Done
Work lunch organized for Friday. Done (Indian)
Weigh-in for work challenge. Done (down 3)
Get an ergonomic chair for work. Found link-have to begin process
Do a walk through the zones that I cover. Done
A Chipotle Sauce on the way home or lunchhour. Done (Only had "Hot")

Tomorrow my coworker will work with me at another zone in the morning and then we will review the work sheet. He was reluctant to do it but knows that we need to cover some issues.

[Anniesnan]

I really like that quote, Max!

and what interesting and thoughtful posts everyone has written.

I'm feeling too brain dead to contribute or think too deeply today.
It's feeling like it's Friday, at the end of one very long, horrible week.

I like being busy, like busy days, but the last few, especially the last 2, I feel like I'm the hampster in the wheel ... I'm going and going and getting nowhere. and it's frustrating, because it's not from lack of effort or lack of accomplishment on my part, it's from roadblocks and detours that keep getting placed in my path. But, like the quote says - no one can GIVE me ... I have to take it.
and like Hawk said, (I think) I've been accepting these roadblocks and detours, "owning" them and taking them on ... (although I have managed, even though it doesn't sound that way, not to OBSESS over them, but turn them into lunchtime anecdotes.

and, on the ironic note, well, one thing I wanted to really accomplish was to clear off my desk today. Well, it is clear, but not the way I expected. It's clear, because it's a different desk:suspicious: and I had to remove everything that was on the former one so that we could replace it with this different one. Unfortunately, now everything that was on my one desk is now in 3 different parts of my office:rolleyes:. So tomorrow, I will deal with that - and really take the opportunity to purge:D

On a personal level, my dd let herself get very sick, dehydrated (dr wanted to give her intravenous but let me take her home with me instead of go to her apt), very, very high fever, shaking from chills ... so, I've been playing Dr. Mom and burning the candle on 3 ends - starting to melt.

and then I listened to my sis - the company she works for is closing, she'll be losing her job soon and made vacation plans for my in-laws and ...


Yesterday, I allowed to be a NO. I didn't take time for myself and ended up with a headache and used that as a bad excuse.
Today, I didn't get in my formal exercise, but did plenty of moving and shaking, but I'm still writing it as a NO. Eating was spot on and will remain that way.

So, I lived today pretty well and really wouldn't do anything different even if I could do it again. I didn't take ownership of someone else's problems, but I DID help them with their problem. I was kind to my daughter and made friends with a 2 year old.

Tomorrow, I will be better ... I will clear my desk and thorough clean my office :D

And when I am done, I will sit down and write what I really, really want in life that I don't have (and can possibly attain) - 'cos what I really, really want is for my entire family and all my friends (on line and off) to be healthy and content with their lives and I don't have control over most of that...

[maxlharris]

So, I worked for 4 hours on the statement of work, getting ready for the 3PM meetdown. 2:30 rolls around and Steph kills the statement of work, that I've been not really working on for about 3 months. Kills 3PM meet down too, and postpones till some time Wednesday. In a way, am happy, since colossal waste of tax payer dollars for dubious return has been avoided and common sense might get a hearing. Annoyed at wasting more than half the day working on something that no one told me was dead a month ago. Oh well, that's government for you.

[gitfiddle]

I'll take a YES for... Tuesday. Today's only Wednesday? No fair! The weather is changing and my legs ached all night.

[oceanblueLA]

Good Evening,

I am having a very weak day... I was faint and weak. I am lethargetic and just feeling slow, icky and un-motivated.Diagnosis anyone?
Sarah

Hi Sarah--

The first question that comes to mind is: are you eating enough? Drinking enough fluids? Maybe you should share what you ate all day and the day before so the ones here with experience can make sure you are eating enough and the right things.

Another thought... sometimes the body takes a few weeks to adjust to the cut back in carbs, especially when you start a gym program like I know you just did.

Check back in and let us know how today is for you. Also know that the icks are temporary!

Blue